Many mothers feel the need to get a job to help bring in money when things are tight in a family but contrary to popular beliefs studies have shown that when there is a dual income home money is lost. On the face it is easy to think that makes no sense; let me explain. When both parents are gone this means they are required to get some kind of childcare, this on its own is quite costly. Often when their is a dual income there is more money paid to gas, cars, and taxes. People tend to spend more to gain nicer things. This normally tends to cancel each other out. One study showed a family where the father made $42,000 and the mother made $21,000. Their net income however for the year ended up being $40,000 because of all the extra expenses. Just the job of being a mother, if paid, would be one of the highest paying jobs in the world. They would need to pay the "mother" to cook multiple meals, clean the entire house, take care of children, do laundry, do possible hair cuts, teach, and much more. How quickly those expenses would add up and in a dual income home much of that needs to be paid for since no one is home to do it.
Having a dual income family can also lead to other problems such as ideologies over 'yours' and 'her' money instead of 'our' money. Most divorces are over money and a non-shared view of a couples finances can potentially be very dangerous to a marriage.
Many woman feel like they aren't making any kind of contribution or that they are stunted if they stay home. I believe quite the opposite! Motherhood is a wonderful time for growth! Having children teaches you selflessness and patience. You learn hard work and how to multi-task. Your contribution is huge! You are raising the next generation. Whether the next generation is kind, hardworking or a problem solving people is largely influenced by you! As for a stunt in your learning that is completely up to you! A dear friend of my mother's stopped school despite her love of knowledge to be a mother. That did not stop her from learning though! She bought many textbooks and would study and read to her hearts desire.
A desire to work and especially to follow your dreams is a wonderful thing! I would just caution a mother who is unsure of some of the possible consequences. Unlike what many would like to believe, I believe that motherhood is one of the most beautiful and dutiful "jobs" we can ever have on this earth. There is not a greater power one has then the power a mother has when she is home with her kids. Their is no money that can replace how much it costs to do the job of a mother. I am proud of motherhood and can't wait until that day comes for me.
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