Divorce

I grew up in a broken home. Though I have seen many blessings I also have seen first hand some of the heartaches and confusion that comes with divorce. Often people get a divorce thinking how they will become happier and free. Though sometimes this is the case and some abusive relationships are not healthy most of the time divorce is not the answer to bring joy.

A wedding day is one of the happiest days of a person's life because it is the moment when the person that you deeply love sets you apart as the most important person in their life. Divorce has the opposite effect, it is when you are unchosen, or set aside and deemed less important. People divorce for many reasons. One reason, that might cause a separation happens when the couple realize that they have different parenting styles, which leads to unresolved contention . They often feel that if they could get away from each other, then they could raise their children the way they see fit. What people often don't realize is that  their children will still be taught by the other parent and their teaching style just without balance of the other partner. Now these children have to change behavior as they change from both parents. Both parents still have to raise children now it will be harder though because they are both raising them and working together but they aren't together. This separation of parents often lead children to feel a need to choose favorites or distress and confusion of changing how they act depending on what home they are in.

Children are effected in many other ways too though. Studies have shown how children who grow up in broken homes have less success in school and have more attachment issues and are more emotionally unstable.

When people divorce they often believe that they will just marry someone better. It is never that simple though. No matter who you marry there will be quality flaws that bother you. That is if you can remarry. Often when there is a remarriage who ever was previously divorced does nothing to change who they are to make the new relation ship work and they often bring in baggage from the past.

When considering divorce there are four things you should know. The first thing is how it will take a minimum of 2 years to get to a sense of  normalcy. The second thing is how all heavy discipline should come from the birth parent. The third thing is how step parents should have a relationship familiar to a wonderful aunt or uncle. The fourth item to know is how the parents will need more conferences and will need to counsel more closely together.

Divorce is not an easy road. This just barley skims the surface of some of the trials of divorce. Divorce greatly effects the children and yet if also puts stress of the adults getting divorced. Divorce is not an easy process so be careful before you decide. The statistics have shown how the greater percent of people who divorce feel like they could have made it worked and in fact should have. Divorce should  be a last option if even an option at all.