Family Counsles

One good way to check up on your spouse and children is to have family counsels. As a religious person this post will rely heavily upon ideas  in the belief that there is a loving God who will guide and direct us. Family counsels should have 4 main aspect, first, they should be done with love and appreciation. Second, they should start with a prayer. Third, they should discussion and then fourth, you should all come to a consensus. Note, this pattern can also be used as a couple to make a decision.

This first aspect is that there should be love and appreciation. You can bring this in by starting the  event off with compliments and other forms of loving acknowledgement. This will start the evening with a feeling peace and self worth.

The second aspect is prayer. If you want to come to a consensus and have a peaceful, respectful atmosphere where the spirit can guide you need to start off with a prayer.

The next aspect is how you run a discussion. One way to run this is you have someone in charge who keeps order. This normally is a parental figure. This person presents what is to be discussed. Then you go around and one at a time have each member put in their input. This way all members have an opportunity and a say. It is important at this time to make sure that all views are respected and listened to. This also is an important time to apply humility. All family members no matter how young can feel like they are truly apart of the family and that they are valued and respected.  You then discus till you come to a consensus.

That leads us to our last part coming to a consensus though this may seem impossible, if you are all striving to do the lords will then you can reach a consensus. Since you are all seeking the lords will, the will should all be the same.

By conducting family counsels in this manner you teach your children how to be leaders. Families feel unified and individuals feel important and like they have a  say. By using this pattern to make rules are more likely to follow. This can be also be a strong bonding time within the family unit.